I took Dad to get the taxes done Tuesday; it's one more thing that he and Mom used to do together that holds strong memories for him. He thanked me for taking him and for gathering the papers together; it's something Mom used to do. In fact, she paid all the bills, handled the money, etc., etc.

Guess who's doing it now?

Guess who kinda sucks at it?

Guess who needs to grow the fuck up and get with the program?

A friend called me today for some emotional support. She has to make a very hard decision regarding her husband, in fact, probably the hardest decision of her married life. She has to decide whether to keep treating his ultimately fatal illness or to let him go. If she decides to keep the treatment going, his quality of life, which was absolutely horrible before, will be even worse. If she lets him go, she has to deal with the guilt of that. This woman has been through so much in her life; since I've know her, she's become a cancer survivor, nursed her adult son back to health after a horrible accident and now this. Some prayers, kind thoughts, what have you, for her peace of mind, please?

Please tell your friend to write me if it would help. At the end I had to decide to let my child go. It was the hardest decision I have ever made in my life, and probably will be. I can't offer her any quick answers, but I can offer her support.

What a hard and impossible decision to have to make. I know you are close to this person and I am sure it is weighing on you as well. I will say a prayer for peace and comfort for everyone.

You're so lovely to post this about your friend in need! Some hugs her way - I can't possibly imagine having to make those types of decisions what it must feel like!

That is such a heartbreaking decision. My thoughts and prayers are with your friend. I'm glad she has you to lean on for support.

I'm saying a prayer for you, your dad, your frined and your husband.

sending warm thoughts in the direction of your friend

what a horrible thing to have to do. She sounds like she has had her share of heartache.....sending prayers and good thoughts to her and you & Dad

I hate dealing with the bills and let Mary take care of it so I feel your pain.

I will most definitely pray for your friend. I can't imagine having to have the burden of making that type of decision. I do imagine that he is not wanting to suffer though and would much prefer to be allowed to pass on to something better. That does not make the decision any easier for the person or persons left behind. I pray that ultimately she has perfect peace with the decision that she makes and has supports around her who will lift her up and encourage her once the decision is made. You're a good friend for just being there for her as you probably know from your own recent loss. The right words don't always seem to be there but it is immensely helpful just to have someone there to lean on.